Your Child’s Most Important Teacher

“You will not be good teachers if you focus only
on what you do and not upon who you are.”

― Rudolf Steiner

As parents our role in our child’s lives is to provide a structure in which they can feel confident and secure about their place in the world. It is up to us to create an environment in which our children see us as a loving-authority. We have all become frustrated with our children from time to time, however when we are impatient or short tempered with our children we are failing to provide them with the security they need to develop fully. The path of parenting is one of growth.

Experience the transformative power of
staying calm, conscious and connected with your children,
guiding them to become more present, resourceful and heart-centered adults.

In my own parenting journey I have been asked to investigate my reactive emotions countless times. My path has called upon me to transform my preexisting parenting patterns and investigate my own inner life. When I looked deeper into these patterns I often saw they were not rooted in the present moment but rather a result of previous experiences not fully processed. I needed to examine my reactions with awareness and loving kindness for myself so that I could be calm and present for my children.

In short – I worked on myself.

 

Our children are born with a heart that instinctively knows what is right and that instinct requires us to meet them with our hearts if they are to recognize us as authorities, guides and pathfinders.  The more confident and centred you feel in your parenting abilities, the more you will enjoy your role and your time with your kids.

In strengthening my sacred connection to myself, my children naturally fell in line with where I was at emotionally.

We can only be this guide for our children when we have authority over ourselves and our own inner lives. It is through ongoing striving to improve our inner-authority that we as parents learn to set ourselves aside and be “present,” listening with our hearts to what our children are bringing and to what they need. When you develop your own strength of will and nurture a heart and spirit connection to your parenting life, you will discover you are more proactive and less reactive. From there our own reactions come from a place of calm clarity and we are able to give our children what they need most from us: a parent who reliably holds the role of a consistent, loving guide in their lives.

Playing with purpose

5143064697_c5cf6c9cb8A trip to the store becomes so much more when you take a little extra time and go at the right time!

  • Go when your child isn’t tired or hungry
  • Talk to your child about what you need and what you are passing.
  • Let them touch the cold milk, the warm deli case, the furry sweater or the smooth boots
  • Talk to the about the steps you take when you shop, find the item, put it in your basket, carry the item to the till, pay for the item, bring it home.
  • Encourage them to help you carry & pick out the things you need and talk to the sales people you encounter.
  • Let them help pay and talk about money
  • Go home before your child is hungry or tired

What could be more exciting than a trip across the ocean to dig up buried treasure? And what if your ship turned into a deep dark cave where a dragon lived and waited? Or maybe it is a table for a tea party with your stuffed animals.

For a toddler their world can be transformed with the flick of a light switch or the dump of a box. Even a simple trip to the grocery store is exciting. They learn through their play and the environment that they are raised in. A rich environment filled with discovery, imagination and new ideas will grow an inquisitive mind hungry for more learning. Their days are made up of the moments you create whether it is baking cookies, or buying milk include them in your tasks and you will both have more fun.

This imaginitive play that goes on during the toddler years can develop our ability to reason, think logically and solve problems later in our adult lives. As your little toddler pretends to stir the pot or sweep the floor thier imagination is working on the ideas to put his teddy to bed and feed the cat lunch. Soon their toys will come alive as your child gives them a voice with a seemingly endless monolouge where there was once only shrieks of excitement.

Obstacle Course

Toddlers love to explore spaces and climb over, through, and into things. Things to try to find….

  • Stuffed animal or toy
  • Large cardboard boxes
  • Pillows
  • A large flat sheet
  • A soft ball
  • A large plastic laundry basket
  • Skipping Rope
  • Anything you think would be fun

Build your obstacle course! Get them to take their stuffed animal with them for security! Open the cardboard boxes to make tunnels to crawl through maybe get them to roll the ball through the tunnel as well, then throw the ball into the basket. Pile pillows on the floor to climb over, place a sheet over two chairs or a table to wiggle under. Get them to try and walk on the skipping rope.

Not only is it fun but it helps toddlers learn concepts such as up, down, over, under, strengthens their muscles and control over their bodies.

For more game ideas click here.

When your child is pretending let them take the lead, but feel free to make suggestions and add your own ideas. If they seem stuck maybe offer a few words of encouragement or advice. Making a pretend breakfast can be a wonderful opportunty to teach manners. Dressing up a doll can be an opportunity to learn the order of how things go on. Setting up a train track and driving a train on it takes patience and many problem solving skills as they figure out how the pieces fit together and eventually how to join it all together in a loop. Learning through play is all about being together and having fun.

For more fun ideas:

Crafting with Toddlers

Fun Songs and Rhymes

Playing Games

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When you encourage your child to dream and pretend, he learns to use his imagination to see beyond what already exists, and give him the courage to explore the unknown.

– Zero to Three